Knocked off after the first date ⇐ Pick Up

[Anonymous]

I met a girl in a chat room in our Italian city (I’ve been living here for many years). She is about 30, externally - about 6. I am several years younger, externally also about 6. 

We got to know each other, had a nice chat, crossed paths once on business, but then I happily forgot about her. A couple of weeks later the first one writes, saying how are you and all that. We chat and decide to drag him out to a meeting. We meet in a cafe, have a nice chat, have a drink, of course. I use light kinesthetics, the K+ reaction. I decide to move on, I try to kiss him, but he doesn’t let me. At the same time, I continue to develop kinesthetics, react normally, and do not try to remove my hand or anything like that. 

About an hour later I accompany you home; along the way I continue to study kinesthetics. I hug you goodbye and kiss you on the cheek. On this note we part ways. 

The next day I call you for the next date. He refuses, says that he is not looking for a relationship in any form. And you shouldn’t count on more than friendship. 
I would like to ask: was there a chance for a different outcome in this situation or was it initially hopeless?