We met, dated then ex. I am not ready ⇐ Pick Up

[Anonymous]

Don't blame me for the text, I haven't written in this language for a long time.

I’m 36 independent, wealthy, good income, branded clothes, two cars, I live in a prestigious area, sports, good shape, many hobbies (cars, travel, yachts, surfing, snowboarding and much more) appearance 6.

She is 33 independent, seems to be independent, her own business doesn’t seem to be super, the difference in income I think is decent in my favor, loves aesthetics, straightforward, likes to discuss everything, was married and divorced for a long time, no children. external 6.5-7

An important paragraph about Her. About a month ago, her boyfriend left her (he just said leave and that’s it). Her things were left in the guy’s apartment. She moved into a friend's apartment in a very bad area where there are homeless people and drug addicts. A terrible place for a girl. There are cockroaches crawling around the house. It's pretty clear what it is. I learned about this at the first meeting.



We met at a party, immediately got to know each other, exchanged Instagram and she went to play board games. Then they dispersed in different companies. I arrived home and wrote on Instagram “write your number.” In the morning I replied, “Will you tell me something?” I wrote, “It’s more promising, let’s have dinner in the evening.” I wrote the number right away. We called each other, had a fun conversation, and agreed on a time and place.

I went to pick her up. She was very pleased, beaming with joy, and thanked him for stopping by. On the way, I learned an important point in the paragraph above. I asked, are you sure that everything is over for you, I said yes, period. She asked about my relationship, which also ended a couple of months ago, I found out on Instagram.

In the restaurant they talked, laughed, allowed themselves to be touched, arms, back, shoulders but not the back of the head and neck (when she tried, she pulled away and said that it was strange. We drank a couple of glasses of wine, had dinner and moved to the bar. More communication and a glass of wine. Then we went to the mountains to the lookout, where we kissed, and it was as mutual as possible. Hands on the butt without any problems. Afterwards, I took her home, while walking to the elevator she turned around several times and looked at me and smiled.

During the conversation, the topics were different, serious about life and sexual context (here she froze a lot).

Why am I writing further if there is an “Important paragraph” to the question you are all finished, she easily and clearly answered there everything is finished. And I think the first date went quite well.

The next day I called in the evening, I didn’t pick up, I wrote an SMS “hello, I’m with my friend, did you call?” wrote back "hi I'll call you tomorrow"

The next day I called in the morning, didn’t pick up, called back in about 5 minutes. A nice fun start. I invite you to the BBC in the park, he says I have a meeting that day, it’s a little cold and he says something like the following. I'm cool with you, but we need to get to know each other better, maybe we'll just be friends without kissing and other things. I say okay, okay, and somehow the conversation continued and we agreed that we would try to get to know each other better at the next meeting, but without kissing and other things. She suggested the day.

Two days later I picked her up. She looked very tired. We arrived at the restaurant and sat opposite each other. Everything went like a business meeting, with various minor misunderstandings. Two hours passed, I asked to be taken home, I wasn’t feeling well. At the exit from the restaurant, while they were waiting for the car to cash out, she moves away. It was as obvious as if they were two different people. While we were driving, I asked why she had changed so much, she said that she didn’t want to shut up the old relationship with me. Took me home, while walking to the elevator, zero attention was paid to me.

I arrived home and dialed it in about an hour. She didn’t answer, she called back about 5 minutes later. I asked about the situation with my ex, she said that yesterday they corresponded about things (there was some trash there) and she was triggered again. And I need to go on vacation to take a break from all this (she’s leaving for a couple of weeks in a couple of weeks. By the way, I’m also flying out around these dates). The entire dialogue was positive, with occasional hysterical laughter on her part. Invited me to dinner in a couple of days, she tentatively said yes, but something might change.



I want sex with her and maybe a relationship. I had the best relationships with this type of girl; she motivates me simply by her presence.

BUT I understand that ideally you need to get out of this situation, I just came at the wrong time, as I think. And somehow competently get ahead of my invitation to dinner.

I think I’ll dial it in a month or two, maybe it will go away or I didn’t understand everything correctly, please tell me and ask. I want to figure it out and get a happy ending.



Thank you!