The girl sharply said that she was not ready for sex ⇐ Pick Up

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Start: Relationship 6 months, everything is perfect, no problems BZ, regular meetings, we spend time at home with petting. The meeting is mostly initiated by the girl, although here I would say 50/50%. The relationship is on the same wavelength, without any problems, except that sometimes there were misunderstandings, but it seemed like everything previous was resolved successfully and we were happy with everything Input data: I'm 24
The girl is 19 According to her, she was a virgin, there was no one, there was a relationship before, but there was never sex. I talked to her more than once about this topic, saying it wasn’t for the reason that she wanted it before the wedding or something - she said no, there’s no difference. She said that she was afraid of pain, but in general it’s not scary, they say we can take alcohol, I and she support this idea Before the last meeting, what did the progress towards sex look like: At first, at home, she only caressed her breasts, then she didn’t allow her to take off her clothes, then after a while she started taking off her jeans herself. Plus before that she told me “I’ll let you know when I want to have sex, I’ll let you take it off easily or I’ll take it off myself” when she was wearing jeans, caressed her through her jeans , it was wet, but then the protection turned on After a number of other meetings, I was already in my underpants, there was no sex (I think there were 3 such days before the last meeting, everything went on increasing, I myself was in no particular hurry with this, because we both want to be together until the end) There were repeated attempts to generally have sex, the process was almost approaching the right moment, as I see, the protection from her turns on, she doesn’t allow me to take off my panties, although everything is wet, in words she says “I want you to come in and take me doggy style” By correspondence, every day I want to be fully penetrated, I really want sex and everything in that style The topic of sex was progressing well, thereby bringing the relationship to a new stage Last meeting (everything changed right here): One day before this meeting: Before the last meeting, she herself wrote that she wanted doggy style, she wanted it on that very day, that we should see each other, we discussed everything. While I was at home there was petting, my panties were wet, we were lying down and I took the condom, she put it away with the words “later”, then after 5-10 minutes I said where did you put it away, she takes it out, I take it and put the condom on my penis, she’s wearing only her panties, I start take them off to enter and then the defense begins again In general, the following phrase came from her when I was already wearing a contempt: “there is little time left, let’s go home tomorrow, soon” she took everything adequately and did not continue
The meeting itself: When she arrived home, what she wrote (she didn’t write right away, but about an hour later +-): She wrote that she wanted to talk and said that she wasn’t ready for sex yet and didn’t know when she would be ready, when she asked me what happened, she didn’t give me an answer either, she avoids answering, doesn’t talk, on my part it looks like inadequate. He said that she was NOT READY and was AFRAID, then she said that she was afraid earlier, they discussed it, and then it was added NOT READY From our last meeting, communication when I tried to find out what could have changed 1) In general, I never received an answer, why and why, he doesn’t give a reason
2) I told her (or rather hinted) that there would be no petting, she reacted in the style of “HOW, WHY?” judging by her reaction, she is not against petting and access to her body, but without sex - this is clearly an unhealthy topic, she probably wants to take advantage of me, and then leave the same virgin She also wrote to me the following (copied 1v1 of her message): I’m not ready now, I’ll tell you when I’m ready, but I can’t tell you the exact time, day, place
And as for the fact that yesterday I wanted too much, I was afraid, it’s not so easy, and it’s not even about you, but about the fact that it’s not convenient for me yet, for me, and you have nothing to do with it Also additional information: 1) The girl is investing in the relationship, a gift for birthday, when my parents called at my house, she said “at your son-in-law’s”, although we haven’t signed yet, according to her, she doesn’t want to get married yet, they say it’s too early (some super-stupid cockroaches in his head, calls him husband regularly, but at the same time there is some kind of cockroach in his head, supposedly it’s too early)
2) More than once she paid for a taxi herself and came to me
3) She says that she fell in love very much both through correspondence and when together The following opinion has been formed: 1) Vasek appeared on the horizon, now he’s deciding whether I’m the one or not (although I write to her whether everything is fine, he says yes - he also loves me and wants to always be with me, but I’m not really into it anymore and I believe)
2) Some strange doubts appeared
3) Manipulation (definitely unlikely to get married - he doesn’t want to yet, we discussed this before, they say in a couple of years, but he doesn’t mind having sex before the wedding, we also discussed it) Questions: 1) If she’s wet, does that mean she wants me physically in 100% of cases, or is there a chance that she still has doubts?
2) What to do with such a madam? In fact, she has now put me in the position that only I need sex, this is nonsense and inadequate, I feel emotional violence - I have a desire not to invest in a relationship with her - she will leave like that
3) Has someone appeared on the horizon and is now waiting for the green light to tell me goodbye? How do you like this option?
4) He expects something more from me - he decided to marinate, saying that my income would increase or something else
5) How is it even possible to change your mind in 1 moment? I feel in limbo and as if she is now using me, manipulating me and then saying goodbye What should I do in general? On her D, I'm thinking of doubling down, removing the petting