Dating after LTR ⇐ Pick Up

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28 years. I broke up with LTR (2 years), I initiated the breakup, it didn’t hurt, it was surprisingly easy to bear, knowing myself. Before LTR I had little experience with girls. I’ve rebuilt my life, I go in for sports, I go to the gym, I eat right, I update my clothes, I’ve taken photos for SZ I’ve made it better than before, I live a more active life, everything is fine with my friends. I earn more than the average for the region, there is a place for an estate, of course. It seemed that there was now more self-confidence and experience, but it only seemed) So far I’ve only met on NW (yes, I know that I need to go to the fields, but I haven’t gone yet), it’s not going very well, but it’s going well, for the first couple of dates I’ve reached my level. There have been no second dates yet - calls are scheduled today/tomorrow. The essence of the problem:
1) The calibration has completely disappeared - it seems like I’m having good dates in the format of “walking - sitting in a cafe”, I hug immediately when we meet, the girls communicate with interest, ask questions, don’t shy away, we part on a positive note + - after an hour. I get pleasure from the date, the girls are at stake. I didn’t kiss him goodbye, although before LTR somehow got the hang of it and didn’t give a damn, if it didn’t work out - the main thing is to try, girls usually appreciated it. Now, maybe I was talking too friendly and there wasn’t an adequate moment, but I didn’t interfere.
But after dating, there’s some kind of unpleasant feeling of melancholy or something, the mood drops, it seems that they won’t call, maybe I talked too friendly, I don’t even know. It seems like I messed up somewhere. I can’t calibrate whether the date is good for the girl or not and I’m starting to get carried away.

2) As a result, I get stuck. And this is inexplicable - after LTR I don’t want a relationship at all in the near future, so why should I get stuck in it? The girl’s importance is overstated; her positive overt reaction is important.
3) Lost sense of balance in what to do between dates. I don’t really understand now whether it’s worth pinging them a little in messengers or disappearing for a couple of days? After all, the time is such that others will appear in a day or two, while you, so mysterious, have disappeared. I don’t understand when to call either. And this feeling that they will merge, discourages the desire to call, but here I can overcome myself. The question is, how to get back on skis faster and get back to your senses in terms of dating? I haven’t organized a conveyor belt of dates for myself and I’m unlikely to organize it in the near future, I need to pump myself up, but I also don’t want to wait for the weather from the sea, I act with what I have.