What to do with such a colleague? ⇐ Pick Up

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Greetings. I have been on the forum for a relatively long time, periodically I read interesting topics, for myself over the years I have learned a lot of useful things. I try to grow mentally, act rationally and not make any impulsive decisions about OJP. And for the most part it succeeds. But not so long ago there was a situation where I stalled, which I really did not like. I understand that an opinion from the outside is simply necessary in order not to do stupid things. Go!

About myself: 26 years old, I rate myself at 5.5, good physical shape, above average height, outwardly not handsome, but not ugly either. I live in a city with a million people, the salary is 2 times higher than the average, with the prospect of growth. Odnushka mortgage, inexpensive car. In general, financially, I am also somewhere in the middle, maybe a little higher. There is room to grow) It seems that without pens, with humor and charisma everything is ok, not so long ago I came to the point that I began to communicate with everyone OJP the same, regardless of whether she is 5ka or 7ka. I hook some with it. There is no relationship at the moment, while I’m tightly engaged in a career + I try to keep fit, I go to the gym, there is not enough time. The last serious relationship was 3.5 years ago. Now there is CO, no problem with sex.



She: 29 years old, looks like a 6. Natural beauty, no fake lips, boobs, etc. Positive, energetic, this literally attracts the attention of WMD to herself. Packs!) Educated, with a broad outlook, there is something to talk about. From a complete family. Never married, no children, no relationship either. She moved from the region herself, rents an apartment, knows the value of money, looks at things soberly. Of course, given such input, I am somehow confused by the fact that I highlighted above.

History. Two months ago I started a new job. She arrives in 2 weeks. For the same position as me!) A large organization, a large department, but our project stands apart and the three of us will work: me, the heroine of the topic and another colleague. Attention fell on her from the first day, they began to make inquiries alone / not alone, shoot contacts, invite them to dinner, etc. A couple of people got them. I will immediately note to myself that my position has always been unambiguous in relation to all these intrigues and novels in the workplace, I have never crossed the line and always put my own professionalism in the first place, somewhere I was even proud of it.

The first week we spend a lot of working time together, take care of things, mutually dilute everything with positive. We spend breaks together, we just talk on light, in fact, about nothing. Then at the end of the week she writes to me after the working day, throws off the non-work related information that we discussed. I maintain a dialogue, but I keep my distance. Let's start talking a little more.

At the beginning of the second week, she so lightly throws in the thought, they say, "I would sit somewhere after work on Friday." I say: "Yes, come on)". I understand myself that I need to call a third colleague, otherwise it will not end in anything good. I say: "our colleague should also be called", she agrees: "well, yes, I agree." We organize a gathering, beer, hookah, some wine. Communication is not more formal, but I'm a flint!) We got tipsy, but I turn off the evening first, after midnight I put them in a taxi, I say that we had a good time. And bye-bye.

In another week, we are organizing a corporate party, we have a rest and we also stick together, she communicates with everyone friendly, I don’t forget about the others either. We begin to learn some details from each other's lives, priorities and values, he asks me which gym I go to, it would be fun to work out together, you probably know the rules. workout programs? I say, yeah, in principle, you can somehow)



The initiative in the correspondence was about 60/40 on her part, of course, there were one-time moments when it was 50/50, but she quickly came to her senses. In life, it’s about the same, always the first to come to me during a break, waiting for me, we go together for lunch, or a break.

Summary: After a while, of course, she already knows that I don’t have a relationship either, I also always laughed off her hints and quirks as a joke and let her know that her I don't even notice in this subtext. Yes, we communicate, a little outside of work, no more. But that's for now. It is comfortable to communicate with her and I am aware that every day my defense redoubts begin to weaken, given all the introductory ones. From the point of view of professional competencies, she is also good, it can be a productive tandem for many years.
There is only one question here: Is it worth risking all this for the potential chance at LTR?