Dating over 30 in a large city, in winter: where? underwater? ⇐ Pick Up

[Anonymous]

Hi all.

Please tell me who has any experience. A difficult divorce ended and the question of dating arose again. I want to close the hole with my lungs LTR for sex, to go together to get acculturated and to restaurants.

I’m 34, I look 26. Girls like me in appearance, but I’ve lost a LOT of weight over the last six months, I started working out, I’m getting in shape. In terms of style, I’m working on it, so far it’s smart casual. I have visited more than 20 countries, lived in some of them, and have many hobbies, so I can tell a lot of stories. I lived in another country for 2 years and only recently returned to Russia.

I earn a lot, but due to a personal situation I lost absolutely all my savings, so now I’m restoring it. It hasn’t affected my lifestyle in any way, but to feel stable, savings are needed while things are turbulent.

There is a little son with whom I will spend time one way or another. I send my wife money for maintenance.

And so I went to different applications/sites:

- Bumble

In the fall there were a lot of girls there and in 2 days I met some very good ones. But now the situation has changed - I literally scrolled through all the girls in an hour and that’s it, no more. It’s as if everyone has gone somewhere, but it’s unclear where. He had one good date, we'll see.

- Tinder

It doesn’t seem to work in the Russian Federation, but I saw a notification from it on one of the girls on a date. Anyone using it now, how's it going?

-Pure

Lots of scary ones. Very different girls like me, but one thing remains the same - they have an empty profile, incomprehensible photos even of the pretty ones with “everything is serious.” It’s difficult to build dialogues for this reason, and also because each girl there gets 200 likes in a couple of days. My ex-wife confirmed this to me. Accordingly, your messages pop up only among unpopular ones and you need to hop on one more leg. There are dates with him, but not much pleasant ones.



Everything is fine, of course, and as usual, you can spend another 2 months on NW searching and dating, but: I’m 34, I get to know mostly girls 29-33. I don’t go through the filters with others, and those who do get through rarely like them. You can underestimate the age, this is understandable, but it turns out to be a lie, that LTR is not very suitable. Well, there is no time for all this.

And here are the questions:

- I would like to go offline, but it’s cold there: minus 10-20. I’m considering options: dating in the subway, restaurants. What other places could there be to meet an interesting girl? It’s difficult with restaurants, because they usually go in pairs or with mch, you still have to look for which restaurant is suitable for this. Does anyone have any options in St. Petersburg?

- If we continue with SZ, then what are the most converting ones in Russia/St. Petersburg for LTR? I want something like bumble, but where are the people?

- I’m already thinking about trying a kept woman. All friends stick out to them in one way or another. I hate the idea of ​​paying for sex, but we all pay for it one way or another. But I want to close the question as soon as possible. Moreover, there is an understanding that this is not forever, it seems convenient. What are the pitfalls of this approach?


Please tell me if anyone knows how and what. Thank you