Please clarify the situation, what to do next? ⇐ Pick Up

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone, help me figure out the situation

I'm 28, she's 25

We met on SZ after a quick dialogue, we switched to telegram where we continued communicating 

Initially, I did not see any interest on the part of the girl, she answered dryly and rarely

After a while I wrote that there were problems with work, for which I offered to get a job with us as a courier since the girl herself has a car and loves drifting and everything connected with it

She asked if I liked her, to which I answered yes, after that she said that she liked me too, but she didn’t need a relationship since she recently broke up with a young man and didn’t wants nothing new. To which I replied that I also don’t need a relationship and I’m not looking for one. She said then we’ll just fuck and I kissed her. After that, a terrible swing began, we kissed and hugged. When I had free time, I constantly rode with her, constantly corresponded with her, with which I failed BZ.

I agree, I made a lot of mistakes because I was not familiar with the topic of pickup and flirting and before it worked out somehow, but it turned out to be not so easy to bend this girl

I invited her to come to me more than once, which she flatly refused

Then one time we went shopping with her during non-working hours, where she didn’t even let me kiss her and said that I would never be her boyfriend and acted quite coldly< span>

After this there was a week of extremely cold communication where I wrote and received messages every other time. In general, interest is completely lost

But there was one moment when it was still not forced, she came to my work, we chatted and at the end of the evening I kissed her again. After that, I again disappeared from her visibility for 2-3 days and the next time we saw each other, she kissed me and started hugging me. In general, just stupid work flirting, nothing more. We hugged and kissed for about 3-4 days, then again something switched in her head and she did not allow herself to be kissed

And the reason was that her car broke down and some friend of hers gave her his car to work on, and then I often began to see this person in her dialogue when communicating

I was as tired of this as possible and I decided to find out what the problem was, to which she said that she likes me but she blocks this feeling because she is afraid that I will hurt her and she has a relationship with me doesn't want to. She likes to communicate with me as a friend. I answered her that I’m not going to be friends and I’m not interested because I want to fuck you and I won’t be able to be friends with you

After this, our communication at work became very strange, she lets herself be hugged, somehow clings to me but nothing more

Honestly, I’m already very exhausted, I understand that nothing shines with this girl, unfortunately, because apparently, well, I’m not her type

The problem is that we work the same shift and I like her very much and I don’t know what to do

Now we only communicate at work on weekends, I don’t write to her and she doesn’t write to me either. Sometimes she sends pings in the form of some kind of video or asks why I ignore her, even though I myself haven’t written anything for two days, in general it’s a complete circus





I haven’t had a serious relationship for a long time and all relationships with girls were fleeting, purely sex and ran away. I don’t rate myself as some kind of handsome guy, normal average appearance and nothing more