Analysis of the situation ⇐ Pick Up

[Guest]

Good afternoon friends! I am 25 years old, I graduated from university a year ago, I worked at the same time, now I am studying in graduate school and working in a large company, the salary is above average. I am developing, reading books, enjoying life and being in harmony with myself. In July, I met a girl on a social network (I don’t really like such methods, but that’s exactly what happened in this case). The girl is 20, looks normal, seems to have the same intelligence, her outlook is a bit of a problem, but that’s not the point. We talked, and 2 weeks later I pulled her out for a meeting, everything was generally fine, but the girl was really awkward. As a result, a few days later we walked again and a slight “thaw” was already felt in terms of some non-verbal signals and rapport. A few days later I started sending hearts and other kindnesses, but when we met, I was really afraid to say something like that. We agreed to meet again before my vacation (I was leaving for my hometown for 2 weeks), but there was a blockage at work and, after explaining the situation, I called it off. When I returned from vacation, we met. After the meeting, he walked me home, decided to kiss her, but she dodged. I smiled sweetly and went home. But I understood that this was already a normal call, given that the person sent me vulgar memes and supported an intimate topic in every possible way (when I was on vacation), there were a lot of jokes that he wanted to undress me and all that. Then the most interesting thing happens - he writes, “Why are you flying into your lips like that at the 3-4th meeting?” I don’t remember the context verbatim, but that’s the gist of it. To which I adequately responded that you send me such things and then charge me with it for kissing you. In response, a masterpiece message was received in the spirit of “well, I’m probably not who I say I am.” Then she asked me to assemble furniture for her in the dorm (her hometown is not so far away, but she lives in a dorm in Moscow). I agreed, had a nice chat, then kissed and this went on for a very long time. She was quite proactive. She started dropping hints like, let’s rent an apartment and all that. They say having sex in a dorm is not an option. Next, a very interesting situation occurs. After the weekend he says that he will come to Moscow. Then, I say, let me come to your city on Saturday, supposedly it will be more convenient for you and I’m interested - let’s take a walk, show the city, etc. He said that I was going to see friends on Friday, would spend the night with them and would come to you on Saturday. Writes ok. Then the most epic thing unfolds - he writes that when will you definitely arrive on Saturday - I answer that at about 5-6 o'clock in the evening, they say the drive is long enough, and on my day off I want to get some sleep. Why do you get hysterical, saying where do you want to come at 5-6 o’clock in the evening, I thought you’d come during the day (although I didn’t talk about it at all, she knew where my friends live and it’s clear that from there it’s not 15 minutes to her city or even not an hour, but these are details). I say ok, so you were going to come on Sunday anyway, like let me just return home on Saturday and arrive on Sunday afternoon (from there it’s closer to her city). To which another masterpiece answer is given: “I’m already determined to rest on Saturday and study on Sunday.” To which I leave and we don’t communicate until Sunday. On Sunday he begins to write and touch on the same topic. All I said was that this was emotionally immature behavior on your part. Then questions started pouring in from her in the spirit of “what are your plans for me?”, “how do you feel about me?”, “do you love me?”, to which I wrote out an eco-friendly answer in the spirit that I liked her , but there can be no love after 2 months, even in theory. “Why are you ready to go straight to bed without love?” I think - fuck myself, we’ve been communicating for 2 months and we’re already such quirks. That's when I realized it was a fucking bell. In the end, we somehow made peace and continued to communicate. I’ll say right away that we met on her territory, since I can’t invite anyone now, my company is moving to another city and I decided to first find a new job, and then look for a normal apartment near the new job. Well, she was also aware of this, that the problem would be solved in the next 2 months. Well, she invited me to her place. Everything was fine, active petting and all that. After the meeting, I write saying how are you (usually she wrote saying how will you get there - write, etc.), in response she flies in saying that you only need sex (I’m fucked here, to be honest, considering that she doesn’t have it with her was). Then she admitted that she missed the candy-bouquet period, romance, compliments, people running after her and all that. I didn’t give flowers, but I brought gifts from a business trip when I was sick, too, always goodies, medicine, fruits, etc. brought That is, I can’t really call myself some kind of completely insensitive cracker. I asked what you were getting at, she honestly said that she didn’t see any future, etc. I only said that such things could be discussed in person, and not pretend that everything is ok. Then he said goodbye and wished him all the best. Gentlemen, explain to me - what was it? How can one even explain such behavior on the part of a girl?
I’m not going to somehow return or try to establish communication with her, much less please her by giving flowers, etc., but I’m just interested in the psychology of the girl’s behavior.