Ex in touch ⇐ Pick Up

[Anonymous]

Hello. On my birthday, an already rare guest sent me a congratulation in my telegram, and a dialogue began, rather testing the waters. We haven’t kept in touch for a long time, but maybe I’ll write once a year.

I’m 31, she’s 24, we were in a relationship before, but not for long, and even during the period when I had to sit here on the forum and study topics, after breaking up with my first girl.

Then I was 24, she was 17. Initially I used her as support, but on her initiative I entered into a relationship with her.

The girl is a solid 6, I'm closer to 5 at that time. Smart beyond her age, she was my personal motivator, a cheerful and cool addition to me. But the girl had one strange character trait: she kept her exes in the friend zone, that is, she communicated with them, and naturally I knew this.

I haven’t really moved on from the old relationship - here you have new troubles, it got to such insanity in the correspondence that the relationship had to be ended urgently. Me and my snot, her exes are running around and expecting to get punched in the face (I was and got one), which actually had an even greater impact on the fact that we eventually broke up.

They maintained a dialogue for a long time after that, exactly until I entered into a new relationship. Communication faded away until the war began. 
 

Then I no longer lived in her city, I accidentally found out that she had left to serve as a doctor, which surprised me very much. It seemed like I was in a relationship, I tried to call a couple of times, but no one answered the call. Purely because of the experience, since you yourself understand what the situation is.

A little later, her friend, whom I knew rather in absentia, wrote to me in all existing instant messengers, and we did not communicate on a good note then. But the state of affairs brings everyone together, we discussed how it was and what we have, and it seems that the dialogue is over. She told me that everything is fine with my ex, so as not to worry, and she cannot answer my calls, since she is not allowed to do this.
After some time, we continued the dialogue with her friend, began very close communication, wished each other a good day every day, exchanged photographs and, of course, discussed my ex a little. Her friend said that she is in a relationship, the guy forbids her to communicate with anyone, especially with males.

And apparently we were both tired of this communication; it couldn’t develop into flirting, although I don’t know why, but it turned out the way it did. There seems to be silence, but six months later my ex appears on telegram, an easy dialogue begins, but here I make a mistake: I show interest in her. We exchanged photos, chatted and that's it.

 

Then there was silence, until my birthday. I basically knew when she had it, and of course I didn’t bother the person. Moreover, my priorities in life have changed greatly. A year has passed since the first correspondence.

On my birthday there was a pleasant dialogue, but I was alarmed by the fact that she was very closely interested in my personal life, the presence of children, to which I jokingly replied that I do not pay child support. Somewhat ambiguous, but she repeated the same question, where I already answered that there were none, I didn’t get married, because I was young and self-sufficient, which apparently caused her approval. Then I asked her the same question, purely for the sake of decency, where she told me a little that no one gives her shit anymore because she just wants to know how I’m doing. That is, this explains the interest in exes. I asked how her long-time friend, who came across a pack of stars from me, naturally she also conducts a dialogue with him. Which, of course, is confusing.

We exchanged old photos that are on VK, I found out how my non-friend was doing, I see that it was unpleasant for her to realize that she (the friend) had been conducting a dialogue with me for quite a long time, discussing not only my ex. I sent her a screenshot that she only said good things about her and it seemed like we ended the dialogue. While no one writes to anyone for a week, there is a desire to write, especially since it turned out that we were close all the time.

I was in Kyiv until December, and it was then that she left for Donbass. At the moment we are 100 kilometers apart from each other, that is, we can easily see each other. I let her know where I was, but what I was doing and didn’t write specifics.

I don’t see any point in moving the dialogues, since the topic will stretch across half the forum. 

Topic for discussion: whether to write something to her, whether to maintain friendly relations or to win her over. I seem to have gotten back on my feet more or less, in comparison with what I was before her, she has also become older, maybe those shortcomings in her head have already gone away, and she began to think about more important things in life than at the age of 17.
I like her as a person, she’s pretty, but I don’t want to take active action.