Hello again everyone!
Before I had time to move away from the last breakup, I got involved in history again. And the campaign has already made a mess. I'm 40, she's 28. We met on SZ.
She is from another city and lives in a hotel. She works in a restaurant as a waitress. Appearance is oriental (lately, I've been drawn to those).
At the first meeting I was positive and communicated easily. The girl kept the topic of relationships all the time and did not switch well to other topics. Doesn't like womanizers and jesters. As it turned out, I underwent psychotherapy for a long time (childhood trauma). Doesn't make friends well (he doesn't have any). Introvert, almost no interests.
Avoidant type of attachment (here I wanted to leave, not long ago a similar story ended in nothing for me).
If her boundaries are violated, she becomes very angry and behaves aggressively. Using psychological tests, I took her hand and we walked like that for 20 minutes.
I tried to hug unexpectedly, but got a negative reaction. Showed me to the hotel. At the end of the meeting, I kissed her on the cheek (I thought I was going to kiss her on the lips, I tried to be indignant).
After the meeting, I was the first to write. And she offered to meet. There was one cancellation on my initiative (they tried to force me into an inconvenient time). Postponed.
Second meeting. I'm late. I pretended that I wanted to hug her, and she froze. The conversation was not going well, I was negative. Unlike the last one, ozhp, said that she is actively entering into relationships, unlike friendships with people. She has 5 years of experience and 2 years of relationship experience.
A couple of times during the meeting she asked for hugs and reached out. We hugged. I teased her with kisses the same way, are you doing that? She said that you need to ask her if you want to hug or kiss. I made use of the fact that such things are not asked, but done if they want. If you don't like it, say it. There were a couple of troubling moments.
She started buttoning up her jacket, asked me to hold my bag, I joked that I would now run away with it)
She took it seriously and sternly told me to take my hands off the bag. I laughed it off, but it was not pleasant.
When we got to the metro, she wanted to say goodbye, I said that I would see her off because it was late, who knows what. I went on principle, I’ll go alone and listen to music. I said ok. She asked are you offended? I said no, why? In the end she said let's go. There was a strange feeling (I felt that I had to leave).
She saw me off, hugged, and said see you later. As she walked, she turned around. After that there is silence.
I have a feeling that if I write first I will definitely lose my balance.
Again the same rake, ITP. ⇐ Pick Up
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