Long-distance relationships, an attempt to blame and bend ⇐ Pick Up

[Anonymous]

Hello guys and ladies, I really need your help, I don’t know what to do

About myself: I work in a company, I have an average income,

My appearance is somewhere around 7-8, I have success with girls and have no problems in this regard. Problems start when I try to build relationships. That is, finding a girl to sleep with is calm and easy, but building something is very difficult for me. All in all:



I met a girl, she is 19, she looks a strict 8. That is, well-groomed, pretty, pleasant appearance

In general, we used to work in the same company, and there I noticed her at a corporate event

As a result, after 4 months I remembered about her and decided to write on Instagram there and a dialogue with her began

She was in another city and we agreed that when she arrived we would meet her. As a result, I wrote to her on the day she arrived in the city, we chatted with her and agreed to drink wine with me. She arrived, we chatted, started kissing, and so we had sex. The next day she was supposed to fly away. To which I invited her to come to me and leave me straight to the airport, she was breaking down, but she agreed. There was no sex that evening because she arrived very late and just wanted to be close to me. After that, she flies to Moscow and our communication takes place at a distance, constant calls and communication, in general there is nothing like that. In Moscow, she writes to me that she has some pleasant feelings for me and she misses me very much.

She flies into the city and on the same day we see each other again, have sex and everything is fine. The next day she goes to work and I write to her that after work I can pick her up, but she says that she doesn’t have the strength and she needs to go to another city tomorrow. The next day she leaves for her city, which is 60 km from the city where we live and I ask her to come back quickly because I miss you and everything is going on (here I already understand that I swam and bz failed not bad) she less often gets in touch but still communication continues. Arriving in the city, she immediately takes work and I was also at work, but I stopped by her place and bought her coffee and myself, and we chatted and agreed that we would see each other tomorrow. She’s flying away in 2 days, so I decided to do something romantic. She and I went to the cinema and at home I arranged some kind of romantic affair with candles and wine, but most importantly there was no sex that evening, that is, we just kissed, had a nice conversation and fell asleep in an embrace. Why there was no sex, she simply explained that she doesn’t want sex today at all, not like she wants romance

The next day she again flew to another city and here the most interesting thing begins, again communicating on the Internet, video calls and all that, but colder answers and less action on her part. She was supposed to leave for 2 weeks, but after a week she says that she will be there for two months and invites me to come to her. To which I said that I would think about it, but in my head I understood that two months is a long time for just such communication, which is not even a relationship in general.

The conversation also continued, correspondence and calls, and at one point I simply photographed my best friend in Instagram stories where I say that they should take her away and she was wearing my clothes, that is, my pants (this friend and I didn’t sleep, she’s purely like Kent to me) think already Whether there is friendship between a man and a woman or not is your choice. She saw this story, called me and said that everything was fine with me and why I was posting this and hung up. I tried to adequately explain to her that this is my best friend and we did not sleep with her. Why did I start explaining to her like that? Because she flew to Moscow to visit her best friend and lived with him, I don’t know whether they had sex there or not, that’s on her conscience. The fact remains that she has a best friend, I have a best friend. But the girl tried in every possible way to blame me and get an apology out of me, she started saying that she saw a future with me and in the end I did the same, but she couldn’t get that apology out of her. After that, the communication became as cold as possible and she posted a video where she and some guy were playing slot machines where toys had to be taken out. A day later I wrote what kind of guy he was and who he was, she said that he was just a work colleague and we were just communicating. In the end, I tried to blame her on this basis and she said oh, that’s it for now. Well, the conversation is over. After 3 days, she created a tg channel and liked my new photo, I asked what kind of tg channel it was and why she created it, and the dialogue began again. We called again where she tried to guilt me ​​into saying that I was working here and you were hanging out with women. Then I swam and admitted that I was wrong but I will do everything so that this does not happen again (I agree, I’m a complete deer) in the end the communication is just as cold and she posts a post that “I smoked half a pack of sticks and two months ago I quit smoking because he didn’t smokes” well, I realized that this was not addressed to me and wrote to her “why didn’t you tell me right away that you were suffering about your ex?” She wrote down a message for me where she said that I didn’t understand everything correctly and that’s all for now. Well, that's it for now

As a result, I haven’t written to her for 4 days and she hasn’t written to me
The girl has sunk into my soul, I understand that I can control myself and withstand being ignored, but is there any chance at all that she will somehow ping and try to get out of being ignored or is this a passed option?