Basic things ⇐ Pick Up

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone! I recently came to the conclusion that you shouldn’t show your sympathy to a woman for as long as possible... you can try to kiss her there, show your sexual interest in her, but don’t get stuck on her, this repels absolutely everyone, even if initially she really liked you, this will push her away, it’s just a question to what extent... it seems that everything here is extremely clear, but I would like to understand the cause-and-effect relationship. Why is this so? Is it just how instincts work? Why is this intrigue so important to everyone? Girls, have you ever had a situation where you first liked a guy, and then began to show more activity and that’s it... not that coat) why does this activity scare her so much?
I noticed a pattern in myself that if I only need sex from a girl or don’t need anything at all, I get her without any problems. Well, for example, there is a girl, and she has, say, a child, and a serious relationship with rsp does not fit into my principles, but the woman is beautiful, even if very, but I understand that I won’t have anything serious with her and I behave correctly with her, everything works out on autopilot with her, because I don’t care about the result, even if she cheats me herself, then I simply won’t notice it)) but if I just want a relationship, I want prospects, then I always screw everything up... even if the girl turns out to be not as beautiful as that one rsp, but I will still start being stupid with her and will definitely mess everything up. This has happened more than once and I began to understand these reasons, because there is a clear pattern here. What mistakes do I make? Everything here is banal, I overestimate her importance, I’m afraid to seem somehow different, I want to please her, I make a lot of unnecessary movements, in short! I come up to her from below, and I want something from her, her mutual sympathy, is this also a need? and such an approach from below = a Tf model of behavior, albeit not so pronounced, but still this is it. It is impossible to avoid the mistakes that TFs make when approaching this way.

What advice should I give myself? It would be logical to behave with such women, just as with those from whom I only want something or nothing at all. But I would like to understand these reasons, what the girls feel at such a moment, how it all works and what the pattern is. It would be great if some good person (or even a bad one) but knowledgeable about this topic) explains to me what it all means.
When I was little and learning to drive a car, I had a problem with the clutch .. (this is the same base!! the same base) I constantly dropped it, stalled at traffic lights, etc., until they explained to me how this mechanism works. Transmission . And having realized how it works (you don’t just leave the pedal and you stall, but the concept of the mechanism), I just stupidly stopped making these mistakes! So, here I also have a problem in the database, in the foundation, and as soon as I figure this out, I’m sure that I simply won’t have any more questions for this forum..)
Thank you for taking the time, reading this long text, and in general, from the bottom of my heart for all your advice and sharing your experience. this forum is a real find, nowhere else can you get such information as here, peace to all