Debriefing, internal confusion ⇐ Pick Up

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone!)

The motivation to create this topic was that I was leaked after the first date, but more on that later

To complete the picture, I’ll write a little about myself. A 26-year-old guy, involved in sports since childhood, master of sports in boxing, even competed professionally for some time, but decided to leave due to injuries. I'm doing business right now. Height 190, weight 85. I’ve lived a life of humor, I’ve never had any problems in men’s groups, I feel very confident in all (male) circles, I’ve always valued and value my reputation, I don’t mince words, I always know how to position myself. Of course, I also have shortcomings in the form of suspiciousness, I often bother myself over trifles (life still won’t teach me..), I often delve into myself.

To be honest with you, I have never had a serious relationship in my life! There were only affairs and sex, since I was constantly busy with “guy stuff,” training, and I didn’t need a relationship. And then two years ago I realized that life is flying by, I should get married in the future, and I have no experience at all in communicating with the opposite sex. Well, naturally I had no experience, I messed around a lot, got upset, then a year ago I came across this forum, I came across it here and still I’m messing up!)

Now to the story, I’ll break it down briefly. I met a very nice girl on the street. We walked down the street a little, I took the number, wrote in the tag and agreed to have coffee. She answered rarely, but in detail, referring to her busyness. I didn’t write to her either. I waited until we met, as it seemed to me..) we had a good time, walked for about 30 minutes, sat in a coffee shop, chatted nicely, without pauses, any mistakes on my part and... after the date, I wrote a day later, saying, how are you. So she completely lost interest and didn’t even read it. After another three days I write, is everything okay with you?) She says yes, everything is fine, I’m stuck at work, etc. But I’m not a stupid guy, I understood what was what..) I didn’t impose myself, I didn’t write anything else. Of course it’s not pleasant, of course I was surprised and upset... well, okay, that’s all lyrics. I analyzed my mistakes, realized that I was embarrassed by her (well, damn, I liked her so much, such a decent, well-mannered girl), I didn’t try to get closer physically (I thought that there would be a second date for this). In short, in a word, I wasn’t confident enough, although I tried not to show it (I was afraid of ruining everything, I raised its importance even before the meeting), but probably it was all conveyed and no chemistry happened, instinct didn’t work

NEXT QUESTION! Here's what's interesting to me, bro. Naturally, I left this girl alone, I also left her on Instagram)) and I see she’s starting to have stories with some skinny, licked sweetie)) I’ve met someone like that before, they chose some people instead of me, I don’t even know how to put it. .weak guys and I don’t understand how girls’ instinct works for such types?? Does their subconscious really read them as more courageous... I understand that the world is definitely not fair, but most often it is objective. This makes me unable to understand what I need to change. It seems like I look in the mirror, everything is clear, there is respect from those closest to me, there is a coin in my pocket, there is charisma too!) but the girls show me that objectively it’s not so, I’m good at it
I'm interested in your opinion, bro