Mobile versionI bring to your attention the topic"should we recommend to young guys, especially pick-up artists, SO with older ladies"?
I had at least five of these. This is something I just remembered.
I can sum up some results.
So.
Advantagesfor him:
1M) the most valuable “pick-up artist”dramatically increases self-esteem and self-confidence. This is like taking a test from the toughest teacher in the department (I received one myself, and I know what it’s about).
1M) teaches - not to be a brat. "Big girl" - i.e. an adult young woman - needs to match. Naturally, SO with her must be delayed. This is a huge school of life and growing up.
1M) zero inhibitions in sex - she knew what she was getting into and what she wanted
1M) there are no bastard games closer and further(arising with peers), no bastard insults, no presentation of demands, etc. Again - for a lady this is < abbr title="Relationships with the main emphasis on sex. From Sex Only.">СО, and only СО, and only those who specifically want SO go for it. The breakup happens (if it happens) - quickly, and - in DOD, and you can friendzone a little (again - " life teacher").
Advantagesfor her:
1F) sex is hot! Like everyone else! and not with anyone, my husband is no longer here! and peers - almost all are married or in LTR. And at this age there are a lot of free people, but also preoccupied with their age. At the same time, women’s age of concern is precisely “around thirty”is.
2G) such a “quivering boy” will almost idolize the lady! Naturally, if the "boy"is already a fairly experienced pick-up artist, then "idolization" will be for fun(in his heart he considers her a whore), but " make-believe - it will be beautiful! And it’s not a fact thatmany peers are capable of producing such a “make-believe” thing. A girl can show off to her heart's content, play the Giving Woman, the “domina”etc. This excites many people.
3G) social womenvery often have a problem - “how to give without empowering a man to take over her, not getting a stalker, and not getting a person who will invade her personal life ". SO should remain SO, and not become LTR. I insist that if the lady is polygamous in principle, then the above consideration is the main reason for the “failure”. And if the guy is so younger, almost no one will dareto “insist on the lady”in this way. Everyone understands that the first person the same age, even “in the project” - and she will “crumble”. And if the lady is also “children’s” (we are actually talking about RSPkhs) - then even more so. What kind of young guy needs tomarry someone else’s child?
4G) many of these ladies (in my experience - at least three) - wantagain to lose their age of 19-20 years. You never know. I married Prince, and he - as usual - turned out to be a m..com. It was unclaimeddue tothe unfinished exterior and was lost against the backdrop of beauties. Then - through the efforts of her ex-husband - she became built, her husband “ate too many pears”, and - forward. I will repeat once again - 80 percent of these atnashenek(this is how the rude male word with the letter "E" is translated into a gentle girl's language) - the girl clearly wanted to replay this age, and looked like someone my age.
5G) Oedipal shame for CO. “Aren’t I a whore?”, yeah.
so - SO with peer - as if seriously, and this shame - they trigger. But with a young person it’s like make-believe, and they trigger much less.
In general, solid advantages. But notat all. More on this below.
What is important for guys:
1) well, the absence of “stops” on the topic “she is older” is a given. Picking up is the same as picking up someone the same age, but much more elegant.As a very cultured peer. And it doesn’t matter if she seems like a redneck and a slut to you. Bydlanka is a matter of 16-20 years. And "under 30" - they are all already cultivated(by lovers, among others). At least they are all polygamous. Married monogamous people turn into“fat ones”.
2) no attempts to take her to places that are “roof-breaking” for girls her age and peers. She had all such places - in one big view.
3) nomachismo and toughs. With such a difference in age, you will look to her like a “typical teenage preoccupation”, and - immediately into the slag. “Sunny”, “lovely” and “just a good girl” are just that. And yes, "girl". Otherwise, there is a risk of slipping into respect for her age, and this will completely stall. Soshki do not need to be respected or considered significant at all. Nice, sunny, pleasant - and yes again! But not - “personalities of large caliber”. Otherwise, it won't work. Is it It’s creepyto call a young mother(with awesome legs, dick-like stilettos and starry eyes) a “girl”? Well, what kind of pick-up artist are you then, if you can’t break your own patterns?
4)THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. Nevereven get close to the topic - show it in a party of your friends and peers. The girl wants - to fuck, and - with you, because you have shown yourself to be worthy of it (taking into account all the female points above). And being a “thoroughbred heifer” (in both senses of the word, as a champion of cattle - too) - for brats - was not something she could handle. Even a quiet person will sharply say “no” to such proposals.
And now - thecons for the guy. Alas, from personal negative experience:
- "attachment to an older person". This can lead to the fact that you become almostsexually orientedto such options in general. Women the same age will begin to seem like poor pissers.
- "getting hooked on the role of a sub". By"sub"in the broad sense of the word we mean aman who is sexually oriented towards girls with a cooler character than himselfand for whom - the coolness of the lady's character ("rank according to Protopopov" , yeah), as well as her managerial position/position at work - is a plus for her attractiveness “as a woman”. Somehow, back in the 2000s, I noticed on the Internet thata boss in business is always better at external appearances than the girls subordinate to her. I was generally criticized, although some ladies said - "That's how it is. What kind of fool would take the one who is more beautiful as his assistant"? A typical phrase of a sub is "Fuck the Queen!". The second is“tease Natasha, pull her braid” (Yurochka Shatunov is very similar to his submissive, unlike his macho friend Razin). Teasing makes sense -"and Natasha responds to him like fuck...! And this will make him more interesting." The young “teaser Natasha” understands perfectly well that “Natasha” is much cooler in character
And both of these points are, of course, a matter of personal taste. Who loves watermelon girls, and who loves pig cartilage girls.
Only now... this has an extremely negative impact on subsequent chances of building LTR. Extremely!
If the “big sister figure” is not against havingwith the “said little brother”, thenmarrying the “little brother” is a completely different calico.
In general, this is the main reason formy own unsuccessful marriage(she is 5 years older. I caressed her in sex, stuck like a tick, earned money for a one-room apartment in Moscow, becoming worthy of her money standards - and... < strong>took her and left her himselfafter 5 years LTR with breaks, with motivation - "you're a bitch" . And she made a comeback.Precisely when I had the last in my life broken cretin-schmoz-o-mezhesky love).
Well, I went to the registry office. With a clear understanding that she is a bitch. The rest either will not work, or are even worse for LTR. She is also full of positive qualities. She is at leastreliable. And “suns” - of course not.
And in vain.
