Help is needed! ⇐ Pick Up

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone! I would like to get support and help, first I’ll tell you about myself: I’m 30 years old, I play sports, I work, I develop, I’m constantly doing something, I don’t stand still, I read. The situation is this - I went to the gym for my own pleasure, and then I met a company, we talked, sometimes we got together, had get-togethers, or went out, so to speak. And then from this company the girl noticed me, although I didn’t care, I liked her, but nothing more. At every training session we saw each other and said hello and that was it. And then it turned out that she took my phone number from a friend with whom we work out together and asked me to pick her up and go to training together, we just live not far from each other, I didn’t refuse and so we started getting closer and closer get to know each other better. One day I dropped her home, she was not in the mood, when I arrived home, I invited her to meet, sit, drink coffee, take a walk, she didn’t mind and we met. She told me that my hair was beautiful, I don’t know why, she told her friend, grandmother, sister about me, said that she dreamed about me, and after talking with her it was interesting and comfortable for me and she began to attract me more . And then there was supposed to be a party in our hall before the New Year, I asked if she would go there, at first she said that she didn’t know, she needed to think about it, she didn’t really have a desire, etc. As a result, day X comes, we get together in a group with whom I go to a friend’s gym, everyone drank, except me, I don’t drink! And then everyone got together and we went to this party, it was fun, and then she gets drunk and starts getting insolent with me, pulling me, hugging me, first she kissed me on the cheek, then eventually on the lips. After that, she called me to her place, we came to her, everything was going towards this, but in the end I refused to sleep with her, I didn’t want to use protection, and she was scared, afraid. Although I myself took the initiative and began to get into her panties, she said that she shouldn’t do this, but did not prevent it! In the end, we fell asleep with her, she prepared breakfast for me, and then I went home to my place. After that, we began to communicate a little less often, she began to get offended by some little things, I froze for a couple of days but still wrote first. She offered to meet, to which she said that she had a lot of things to do before the New Year, she needed to meet everyone, etc. + she was going to her brother’s for the New Year, since I said that I myself didn’t know where I would celebrate, I didn’t invite her to celebrate together. She said that after the New Year I’ll come and meet normally rather than right now for a short time, but in the end I wanted to see her so much that she offered to see me for half an hour and drop her off at a childhood friend whom I hadn’t seen for a long time . After that, a couple of days passed without greetings, there was no news, I wrote when we were supposed to meet, saying how are you, etc., she says I’m going to a friend’s restaurant right now, but didn’t ask if I would come? Do I want to see her? to which I answered her - it’s good to sit, she just threw a smiley face, like she’s not giving me any brains. After that, I froze for another couple of days, then I wrote to her again, she says that she did all this in vain, that she invited me to her place, that they almost became close, she doesn’t want to rush things, that supposedly things weren’t going so quickly for her It happened that she didn’t want to lose further communication because of that “stupid day” when she called me to her place, she said that everything should go smoothly at its own pace, I say, yes, everything is fine! Don’t worry, so I’m not in a hurry, I’m already good at communicating with you, I suggested that we meet her normally after the New Year and promised a gift, because I just wanted to please her, not because I “have to” but simply from the heart. After the New Year, she arrived in Moscow, having already fallen ill, as it later turned out that she was ill, on Instagram she posted some kind of powder for the flu, to which I answered her that this was complete bullshit, it would not help her, what did she tell me? She answered that why am I devaluing her things, her words, once again she is offended by this, again ignored by me, I didn’t even know when she arrived, and then I see she posted a photo of medicines and an inscription - that a huge thank you to those mothers who raised such sons who help and help out in such moments, not like some who just talk and do nothing, I saw this, and just at that moment I took the gift that I ordered for her, I write to her that let me go right now I’ll come to you, give you a gift and leave, to which she rudely replied that she wouldn’t open the door to anyone in this condition, that she was not alone, that she had everything and didn’t need anything, that she was waiting for a doctor. After that, I was frozen again for 2 weeks; a week before I wrote to her, she wrote something about training, but I didn’t read it in time and deleted it after that. Then a week later I decided to write to her, saying that let’s meet and just talk, she responds with what should we talk about? I was silent all this time when she needed support, I didn’t help her, that I didn’t pay anyone attention to her, but I insisted on meeting, she says that she’s not going anywhere, that she’s not at home, although the light was on, that they say, maybe I’m having sex with another person, that there was nothing between us, interest disappeared, after I froze, she set the conditions for me, that let’s pick me up tomorrow before training and talk, although there’s nothing to talk about, that ours communication has reached a dead end. I still insisted that let’s see each other today, she says that she didn’t express herself clearly, I don’t want to! I have no desire, when the right mood and moment will be, then we can talk, I again insisted on my point, she replied that I was like a teenager and inadequate and that after that I didn’t want to talk at all, and that she had her last training session tomorrow and more won't walk. I say, well, if communication has reached a dead end, why not delete it and block it? she - well, you didn’t do anything bad to me to delete it, the next day she came, we didn’t even say hello although she was looking at me all the time, then I saw she started turning away from me and not looking in my direction, after training I come home, I deleted it everywhere in the telegram, I blocked it, do you need advice on what to do? how to fix everything?