Mobile versionIt so happened that in order to earn something in my life, I had to work from morning to night for several years.
Work took and still takes up almost all my time and energy, communication with girls was mainly on social networks, plus Tinder and rare meetings 1-2 a month, and there were months without meetings at all because there was simply no resource for them. These meetings some ended up having sex, some didn't
Now I have achieved more or less the results for which I started all this and began to go on dates more actively. (I'm not fucking around, I'm just writing to understand the situation)
Mostly youngsters 18-21 years old are targeting me on Instagram (most likely because of the car and financial opportunities, plus outwardly some of them don’t care)
but building LTR with them is as difficult as possible for me, because the interests in life are different and it’s impossible to get anything from them other than great sex (although perhaps I don’t know how to get it correctly
problem 1
about half of the girls with whom I correspond jump out of the meeting (at first they agree, then they write, let’s reschedule, I’m tired, etc., the standard set I just don’t write anymore) - I tried to communicate with them and as briefly as possible, that is, 3-5 SMS, what are your plans for the evening, let’s see you, etc., the result described and also tried to communicate for several days, touch on some interesting topics, make jokes, etc., the result, plus or minus, is the same (in this version, the feeling is that I am sliding down to their level with this correspondence, perhaps due to the fact that I am very nervous because of my work and cannot to adequately go through all their juvenile manipulations and checks, it takes time to restore the nervous system because I’m seriously stuttering) but inviting everyone on dates via direct message in 3-5 SMS works out with 3 out of 10 conditionally.
It seems to me that while I was actively working hard at work, I was very far behind in the area of seduction and most likely I was doing something wrong in these correspondences. please give feedback
problem 2 the dates themselves
I try to close all my meetings for fast. it turns out 3-4 times out of 10 plus or minus
My dates usually go like this - we go to some restaurant for dinner (here I try to establish rapport as much as possible), from there we go to the track to race (for the emotional component) and from there I try to lure him home by any means possible.
I'm going out with someone, someone is trying to overprice themselves (this is obvious) is trying to seem like a homely person (although I know that this is not so) and on the second date of those I call after the first, the conversion, plus or minus, is the same as with fast...
I don’t understand what I’m missing - I don’t try to pester them as if I haven’t had sex for 5 years, I seem to communicate quite adequately... there was once even a case that one stayed with me for the night, but there was no sex so I that evening she didn’t do it, she didn’t give it - why she stayed I still don’t understand
The question is, what am I doing wrong on the date itself? Perhaps the emotional component is missing? Perhaps there is not enough conversation on sex topics? Perhaps I’m building little rapport? and perhaps all this together
please give feedback
problem 3
My work does not involve live communication with people, so meeting people in person is extremely difficult for me.
that is, if we communicate with someone in a company, everything is normal. Communicating with someone with whom I have already communicated online is no problem at all. but it’s incredibly difficult for me to approach someone somewhere on the street or in the gym; I have no social skills. I started to force myself to just ask at least something from the girls in the hall at this stage without hints of dating. to at least develop social communication
If you have any advice on this point I would be grateful
Thank you
