Feelings before a wife's first meeting with her lover ⇐ General

[Anonymous]

How did you feel before your wife and her lover met for the first time? When were you just starting out and didn’t have any experience and will this first lover be remembered for a long time?
My background, about a year ago I started thinking about watching my wife have sex with someone else. It was interesting, very exciting, and in September I decided that I needed to try for real. After a long search, I found someone who can seduce his wife and is willing to spend a lot of time on it. I didn’t tell my wife about my intentions (she still doesn’t know), because I decided that if things went on their own, without my pushing, then it would continue to be interesting, and if not, then there was no need to do it. He started writing to her, a correspondence began, they wrote more often, longer, exchanging photos, after 3 weeks they switched to intimate topics, nude photos, comments to each other. I’ll say right away that yes, there are some moments, but in general everyone likes the situation, the lover is very interested in those who have never tried, the wife became much more active in sex after the start of these events, especially after their correspondence turned into intimate topics (she still doesn’t know that I know about her). It really turns me on to read their messages/look at their photos. But he says that for now they should sit in the cafe. And I understand that this is already a “step into reality.” Exchanging photos is one thing, but this is a real step towards the fact that she may end up naked in front of him. And on the one hand, it’s interesting to look at this further, but it’s scary to open Pandora’s Box. In general, I want opinions, I understand that each case is unique, but many opinions are a chance to understand how far you can progress, not only on your part.